一次深度的链接，揭开内心的秘密

最近和一位一起上OH卡课的朋友约了吃饭，本是平常的相聚，却打开了我尘封已久的心结。

我们聊到了我为什么会走上心理学这条路。19岁那年，我的好友选择结束了他的生命。而那天，我刚好在现场。奇怪的是，我发现自己竟然没有任何情绪。没有哭，也没有崩溃，内心出奇的平静。可是，这种平静让我非常困惑——难道我不正常吗？是不是应该哭出来才对？

周围的朋友们早已哭成泪人，而我，依旧毫无反应。

她静静地听着我的故事，然后深深地望进我的眼睛。她的眼神仿佛有一种魔力，充满了爱与关怀。她用坚定而温柔的语气对我说：“你可以允许自己不坚强，你可以允许自己崩溃；你可以允许自己不用当场解决问题；你也可以脆弱，可以无助，可以哭。”

每一句话，像一束温暖的光，穿透我心中的阴霾。刹那间，我想起了19岁那年的所有记忆，那些被我遗忘在心底的画面纷纷涌现。胸口开始涌动一股暖流，双颊微微发热，就像电流滑过。我哭了出来，感觉积攒了很久的情绪，终于得到了释放。

同时，我的内心竟然变得无比清晰。我对她说：“我在你的眼里看到了妈妈的爱。”一种无法言说的无条件的爱——温暖、温柔、包容。

这位朋友，也是一位充满爱与力量的OH卡咨询师。或许你也好奇，这个眼神满怀爱的咨询师是怎样的人。你可以去小红书关注她 @温温Oh卡咨询师。

感谢这位朋友，让我在她的陪伴和理解中，释放了埋藏多年的情绪。她的温柔与爱让我重新感受到生命的力量。❤️

每一个疗愈的瞬间，都是一种爱的奇迹。愿这份爱，也能成为你心灵成长的一部分。

我学习心理学的小故事

那年我19岁，失去了童年时期的好朋友，他选择结束了他的一生。听别人说，他一直在跟抑郁症斗争，看到他的痛苦和最终的选择震撼了我。

事后，我感到非常的无助。我和朋友们都情绪低落，但我不知道如何给予支持或帮助他们应对自己的情绪。我意识到，我打从心底想帮人，但是缺乏助人的方法，在这样困难的时刻，提供援助。

那次经历，成为我生命中的一个转折点。我下定决心学习心理辅导，深入了解我们的思想、情绪和行为模式。19岁那年，我的心理学学习之旅开始了。我报名参加了心理辅导文凭课程，但我很快意识到，这不足以满足我真正帮助他人的愿望。因此，我继续攻读心理辅导学士学位。

毕业后，我暂时放下了教师的工作，成为了学校心理辅导员。在那段时间，我明白了学习心理辅导，不仅仅是为了自己的成长，更是为了更高的目标——装备自己为他人服务。

为了更深入地了解人类心理学，我决定攻读心理辅导硕士学位。我想深入了解我们的思想、情绪和行为模式，以及它们如何影响我们的生活。

我一直希望对身边的人有积极的影响。失去了童年时期的好朋友，让我更加坚定了这个目标，我想为可能正在经历困难的人提供支持。我希望有能力支持他们度过最困难的时刻。

今天，作为一名人生教练，有机会成为一个倾听者、带领者，挖掘他人潜力，实现理想目标，帮助他人过上更好的生活。

如果你或你认识的人遇到困难，请记住你不是一个人。向身边的人求助，并记住脆弱也是一种力量。我们一起可以战胜生活中的困难。

愿我们都有勇气面对挑战，智慧地寻求帮助，并且有同情心地互相支持。

Why I studied Counselling

Today, I want to share with you why I studied Counselling. It all started when I was 19 and tragically lost a childhood friend to suicide. We were told that he had been struggling with depression, and witnessing his pain and eventual decision shook me to the core.

In the aftermath, I felt an overwhelming sense of helplessness. My friends and I were all feeling down, but I didn't know how to offer support or help them cope with their emotions. I realised that I lacked the understanding and tools to be a source of comfort and guidance during such difficult times.

That experience served as a turning point in my life. I made a conscious decision to learn about counselling and to delve deeper into the workings of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. My journey began by enrolling in a counselling diploma program, but I quickly realized that it wasn't enough to fulfill my desire to truly help others. So, I made the commitment to pursue a bachelor's degree in counselling.

After completing my studies, I took a break from being a teacher and ventured into the role of a School Counsellor. It was during this time that I came to a profound realisation. Learning counselling should not solely be for my own growth and development, but rather, it should serve a higher purpose—to equip myself with the necessary skills and knowledge to be of service to others.

To deepen my understanding of the helping relationship and human psychology, I decided to pursue a Master of Counselling. This thirst for knowledge arose from a sincere eagerness to comprehend how we think, feel, and behave, and how these aspects intertwine to shape our lives.

My ultimate goal has always been to make a positive impact on the lives of people around me. The loss of my dear childhood friend was one life too many, and it ignited a burning passion within me to be there for others who may be facing their own battles. I wanted to be armed with the tools to support and guide them through their darkest moments.

Today, as a life coach, I feel humbled and grateful for the journey that led me here. Every step I took was driven by the desire to be a beacon of hope for those in need, to be a compassionate listener, and to assist others in leading better lives.

If you or anyone you know is struggling, please remember that you don't have to face it alone. Reach out to those around you, seek support, and remember that there is strength in vulnerability. Together, we can overcome life's challenges.

May we all find the courage to embrace our struggles, the wisdom to seek help when needed, and the compassion to support each other on this journey called life.